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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 8:34:52 GMT -6
Crazy to me that he had been talking up this friend of his visiting and apparently only moved enough trash so he could put down an air mattress. When she left to stay at another friend's place, he made some remark that he couldn't be expected to be neat because he's a bachelor. She even tried to clean his place a little bit while he had been away at work - so what my friend saw was after her efforts to clean at least a little of the mess.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 8:35:38 GMT -6
Do you have a relationship with his family such that you could ask them if they are aware what's going on? I'm not close with them. They're back in Kentucky. I do know some people in Denver that are much closer with his family - that might be a good approach. |
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Post by doso on Jun 15, 2017 8:56:23 GMT -6
Yeah, other than that, I think all you can do is (gently) let him know that you're aware, ask him if he wants to make a change and if he does, then offer some specific assistance. For example if you're willing to go over there with some trash bags and help clean up and/or set him up with some resources for people who are hoarding/living with their trash. The key, of course, is he won't change unless he wants to. Getting some behavioral health assistance is another key - should be easy, especially if he's working for a company that offers an EAP.
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Post by ten15 on Jun 15, 2017 9:09:16 GMT -6
Wow that's my friend's bf as well. Now he basically just lives at her place. the first thing I thought when I read scoots' post was your friend. Still together, huh? |
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Post by falcozappa on Jun 15, 2017 9:42:02 GMT -6
I don't know how far along that sliding scale I was. But I remember that when (yet to be) MrsFZ first came over for a visit, my friends were concerned about what she'd make of my place. I took the hints and spent a few days doing a little light tidying. Talking about older times later on down the line, MrsFZ told me that she was surprised that I hadn't bothered to tidy up for her before she visited. I don't say this to make light of your friend's situation, Scoots.
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Post by alady on Jun 15, 2017 10:45:11 GMT -6
Wow that's my friend's bf as well. Now he basically just lives at her place. the first thing I thought when I read scoots' post was your friend. Still together, huh? Oh, yeah. We had a mutual friend in town last weekend and he and I stopped at her place after the beach Sunday to find her and her bf casually eating out of the same enormous bowl of broccoli cheddar soup. That's weird on a few levels, right? |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 10:45:58 GMT -6
That's romance.
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Post by teekoh on Jun 15, 2017 10:46:16 GMT -6
Yeeeeep.
IRT alady, that's not romance.
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Post by teekoh on Jun 15, 2017 10:46:54 GMT -6
Although broccoli cheddar soup is ++++++
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Post by alady on Jun 15, 2017 10:52:35 GMT -6
This is true but maybe not my first choice on a 95 degree day. They seem happy but she has gained a bunch of weight because their relationship is just him coming over to watch tv and eating and drinking. Apparently he orders up a bunch of stuff on demand and doesn't chip in on the cable bill  |
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Post by andrewvb on Jun 15, 2017 10:53:42 GMT -6
smh
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Post by alady on Jun 15, 2017 10:55:47 GMT -6
God I miss that 90s hip hop aesthetic.
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Post by ten15 on Jun 15, 2017 10:57:04 GMT -6
This is true but maybe not my first choice on a 95 degree day. They seem happy but she has gained a bunch of weight because their relationship is just him coming over to watch tv and eating and drinking. Apparently he orders up a bunch of stuff on demand and doesn't chip in on the cable bill So many odd things with this story. Not the least of which is she should get netflix. |
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Post by andrewvb on Jun 15, 2017 10:58:24 GMT -6
knowing the messy bf, probably eating out of the same bowl to have less dishes
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Post by thisismyname on Jun 15, 2017 10:59:59 GMT -6
God I miss that 90s hip hop aesthetic. Move to Brooklyn. |
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Post by mookie on Jun 15, 2017 11:03:08 GMT -6
knowing the messy bf, probably eating out of the same bowl to have less dishes I'm going to make a pretty safe bet that the bf isn't washing the dishes |
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Post by teekoh on Jun 15, 2017 11:11:33 GMT -6
A blimp crashed near the U.S. Open. It landed in a field and there seem to be no major injuries.
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Post by andrewvb on Jun 15, 2017 11:14:49 GMT -6
who let tiger near a blimp?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 11:18:22 GMT -6
Are you working on a stand-up routine?
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Post by alady on Jun 15, 2017 11:18:40 GMT -6
God I miss that 90s hip hop aesthetic. Move to Brooklyn. Will someone follow me around with a fisheye lens and a halo light so I just look like this all the time?  |
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Post by alady on Jun 15, 2017 11:19:36 GMT -6
This is true but maybe not my first choice on a 95 degree day. They seem happy but she has gained a bunch of weight because their relationship is just him coming over to watch tv and eating and drinking. Apparently he orders up a bunch of stuff on demand and doesn't chip in on the cable bill So many odd things with this story. Not the least of which is she should get netflix. Oh she does. Pays for that too. |
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Post by thisismyname on Jun 15, 2017 11:21:13 GMT -6
Will someone follow me around with a fisheye lens and a halo light so I just look like this all the time? I'm free in late July |
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Post by Xamnam on Jun 15, 2017 11:22:51 GMT -6
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Post by dij22 on Jun 16, 2017 7:31:54 GMT -6
Amazon is buying Whole Foods for 13.7 billion dollars.
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Post by anime on Jun 16, 2017 7:32:55 GMT -6
Any reason why, or just because?
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Post by Xamnam on Jun 16, 2017 7:35:59 GMT -6
Funsies.
Lost a bet.
Keeping the seventh seal from breaking.
Renaming it Hole foods, only selling food with holes.
Using Amazon drones to give samples outside of Trader Joe'ses
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Post by claypoolfan on Jun 16, 2017 7:41:12 GMT -6
I am all about Amazon getting deeper into the grocery game.
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Post by andrewvb on Jun 16, 2017 7:44:05 GMT -6
whole foods has been struggling as well since now everyone is doing organic/healthy foods for way cheaper than shopping at whole foods.
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Post by dij22 on Jun 16, 2017 7:47:18 GMT -6
I would never do full grocery shopping trips to Whole Foods, but a lot of their stuff is legitimately awesome. I'm not super close to one so I could definitely see myself buying a few items on Amazon fairly frequently.
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Post by andrewvb on Jun 16, 2017 10:16:51 GMT -6
lol
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